I am 91 yrs old my oldest daughter taught me something I remember often when I think I have to reveal or tell something.. Her rule is (is it true, is it necessary, will it hurt someone) then pray on how to precede. I will now pray that God will give your children peace on what you told them and that they will reunite with you. I pray in the name of Jesus and give Him all the glory for answered prayer.

Try accepting them for who they are and how they live their lives. It would probably take a lot of fortitude on your part to keep your mouth shut and not criticize. My four children have not always lived the way I would like but I just don't criticize and let them live their lives. As a result I get along with all of them and they are always there for me when I need them.i just came from my 86th birthday celebration , they were all there and we have a loving relationship. Try it sometime, I think you'll see after a while when you show them you have changed they will want to be closer to you.