My story begins looking for love all in the wrong places I have been married 3 times by my choice and not the choice God has for me I learned a valuable lesson not asking God to bring the right man in my life I have had eight children not all by the same fathers and four passed away from mental and physical defects and three I had aborted which I wish now I would have never done I was very sexually active before I got married and I learned what God meant the two shall become as one and I found out that everyone you have sex with that is not your partner you are actually making love not only to them but everyone they ever had sex with and each time you do you take on a part of your sex partners personality and you have what is called a soul tie, The lesson I want to share is what ever you go thru in life God can always heal it and make it right and to never choose a mate of your own choice for if it not the man God has for you there are many years of misery I am not saying God does not honor your marriage commitment he can work it out if you choose him to but the process is very draining and all you had to do was wait for God to bring the right one in the first you will be alot happier. My decisions gave me children out of wedlock, drug addicted men thinking I did not deserve any better,2 divorces because of marital infidelity on their part and now they wish they never messed up and want me back I do not go back in life its all about moving forward ,physical and mental abuse and what I am saying for the women let God prepare you to be a wife and men let God prepare you to be a husband there is no rushing into a relationship like I did.Always ask God first he knows what is best for you he ordained relationships and know to this day he has healed me from the past hurts and gave me a new outlook on life and is still putting my life together but its 100 percent better than what it was I thank God for all I have been thru in my life for it made me a very strong woman and the lessons in life were well learned now I can help others come out and make better choices for themselves Women you are precious in the Lords sight you are a diamond in the ruff and he is perfecting you So again I say to men and women Ask God First and wait on him you wont regret it God Bless Lisa Drew