Seeing everyone is not nearly as important as being assured each person is in God's hands. Beginning families have fewer resources for travel and missing work days. No one should feel obligation or guilt. This is not God's mandate. Families are separated by far greater distances now than what elderly people perceive. Make your decision on what is best for your present family, not the family you came from.
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You are a slower, but better winner than anyone can imagine. We only learn through mistakes and waiting upon God. The very best, most valuable things come after much sorrow. Keep loving and listening to God. He chose you and only he can perfect you.