As a surviving widow you should be eligible for DIC or death pension benefits. Have you tried contacting the National Veterans Foundation NVF? Not sure who they are or if they can help but it's worth calling and checking maybe? 1-888-777-4443 I said a prayer for you too. I hope something gets done soon, Lord knows you have waited way too long for this.

Oh Nicole, as Christians we cannot pray for you to move in with your "lover". That would be considered sinful by engaging in the act of fornication (sex outside of marriage). God does not like that in his children and therefore it's not something we can pray for. We can pray that your lover becomes your husband so that you two can share a happy life as husband and wife. I will pray for your health concerns though and I do hope things work out for you in a Godly way so that you will be blessed.