When my mom passed and then nine days later my dad passed, everything from there went downhill with my relationship with my middle sister. I have two sisters. My middle sister became extremely greedy and wanted EVERYTHING that my parents left behind. For the most part, my youngest sister, the executor of their estate, ended up making certain that most everything was split three ways. But my middle sister finagled her way into getting more money and more of their possessions. She avoided us at our parents' joint funeral with the exception of the three of us gathering alone with the ashes of my parents to combine them into one container. I continued to try to stay in touch with my middle sister, but after the funeral, she was having nothing to do with me. I think she blocked my phone number because I could never get in touch with her. She basically disowned my younger sister and me both. Then my middle sister lost her husband...a young man whom we were shocked to hear that he had become ill suddenly and passed. My middle sister had briefly sent to my younger sister and myself in a "group" text that he needed prayers. Fortunately, while he had been in the hospital, I was able to send to him a loving message and he was able to send back to me a response that he was expecting to pull through. Then another text from my middle sister telling my younger sister and myself that he was not going to survive, then one that told us he had passed. I drove 400 miles to my younger sister's home where she and I left from and drove another 300 plus miles to my middle sister's home to see her and attend the funeral. She didn't offer us a place to stay so we staying in a motel for two nights. My middle sister was more welcoming to my younger sister and more cold to me, but I set that aside and just tried to let her know how much I love her and wanted to be there for her. After his funeral, she stopped contacting us again and again, once in a while my little sister would text her and would get a brief response but once again, my texts, calls and even cards sent through the mail were unanswered. About a year and a half later (while I was in the middle of a long distance move to the city where my little sister lives) my middle sister group texted us and stated that she wished her sisters would come see her. My little sister (who owns her own business) was inundated with client appointments and as I was now working with her and still trying to get moved, I told my middle sister that as soon as I could get free, I would get up there. A couple of months after that, my little sister and I again received a text from our middle sister telling us that she didn't believe that since we no longer shared sisterly relationship with each other, she didn't think it "necessary" to continue to exchange Christmas gifts; a tradition our parents had always carried out all of our lives--exchanging gifts with each other. I had already purchased gifts for her and her son, my God son, but told her that if she felt that way, I would respect her wishes. That was two years ago. In the past two years, I have continued to send to her many texts and attempted phone calls. I have sent Christmas cards and birthday cards. I have received no response from her at all. My younger sister is less involved in staying in touch with her and on the rare occasion that she does text my middle sister, my middle sister responds--briefly but there is still a response. I don't know what I have done to my middle sister to make her so absolutely "done" with me. But I love her and just want her back in my life. I ask for prayers for her...that she will open her eyes and try to forgive me for what I have done to her. I ask for prayers for me to try to move on without her if that is God's plan but to continue to have the strength to stay in touch with her even if there is no response.
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